The Inner Room

How to know God's will

Recently I’ve been wrestling over how to know God’s will in major life decisions, like where to live, whom to marry, and what job to take.

There’s a lot of advice out there, ranging from people saying that you need to hear a direct word from God, to others saying that you can’t expect direct guidance, but have to make a decision based on wisdom and the information you have.

It’s confusing. To find personal clarity, I’ve gone straight to the source, God’s word itself.

A couple of passages have spoken to me:

How to deal with problems in relationships

There will always be conflicts and problems in relationships. Even the best of relationships experience them. Why? Two people in a relationship are always two sinners. We are by nature sinful and self-centred and want our own way. We are blind to certain things about ourselves, our faults that can damage the other person and the relationship. We all need to grow, change, and make use of God’s word and his grace to transform us into the likeness of Jesus, so we can love and serve others well.

Lies our culture tells about premarital sex

Our culture tells us a lot of lies about sex before marriage. We don’t realize they’re lies. But that’s what they are. Plain old, flat-out, bald-faced lies.

We know they’re lies because they contradict God’s word. But if that’s not enough, when we give in to them, we discover the painful truth for ourselves. Far better to simply trust God in the first place and spare ourselves the pain and heartbreak.


Premarital sex destroys trust in a relationship

I did not understand before why premarital sex was such a big deal. I knew it was a sin, and I knew God forbid it. But I didn’t understand the very real and harmful effects it has on a relationship.

Probably the biggest harmful effect is destroying trust. I’m going to try to break down why this happens.

As Christians, we know God’s command to abstain from sex before marriage. We hopefully plan to abide by it. But often we find ourselves in relationships where the other person is pressuring us into sex, or maybe we are that person.

How to know if you should stay with the person you're dating

In every dating relationship, you’re asking yourself, how do I know if this is “the one”? How do I know if I should stay with this person and marry them, or break up?

This isn’t a list of specific behaviours or indications; it’s more of a set of general diagnostic questions you can ask yourself about the health of the relationship.

1. What is my emotional experience in this relationship?

Why it's important to date someone who fears God

Something I’ve been meditating on recently is the vital importance in dating, and especially in marriage, of choosing a person who fears God.

What do I mean by that, and why is it important?

“Fearing God” doesn’t mean necessarily trembling in terror, or living in a psychological state of fear. What it means is a healthy respect for God. This healthy respect is manifested by belief in, and obedience to, God’s word.

Engaging less on social media

I recently made a decision that has led to a lot less stress and a lot more peace. That is, to be much slower to comment on inflammatory social media posts.

It started when a friend of mine posted something very anti-Christian on Facebook. He frequently posts this kind of material. He’s about as opposite of me as you can possibly get: extremely atheist, liberal, and anti-Christian. He thinks gay marriage, abortion, and gender-neutral bathrooms are wonderful things.